Ever ask yourself, “Why is God Making me wait for a husband“? I have been single for four years, and I am not giving up or slowing down. I don’t mind that my friends are getting married and starting families while I sit around in my pajamas watching TV all day. But it does become a little frustrating when you get asked the same question about 40 times a week.
This article will briefly discuss some of the frustrations of being a woman in this situation, as well as what can be done to make these issues easier on oneself. But before we get started, let’s go over several things you should know.
- Being single is not a death sentence; it is a new chapter in life that requires a whole new mindset and rules.
Many people try to make you feel like you are diseased or abnormal because you haven’t found someone yet. They will make jokes about “spinsterhood” or “Forever Alone style,” which can be hurtful and disheartening. However, it is essential to remember that being single does not mean that your heart isn’t good or worthy of love. Some singles never look for love or are only looking for a marriage proposal. Some are waiting for God to “sizzle” the right person into their lives.
Another thing to keep in mind is that not every person you meet will be your soul mate. I’ve met some people I thought were perfect for me and would have been great husbands and wives, but we weren’t destined to be together. I’ve also met people I never intended to talk to again, but God brought us together for a reason. Every new person we meet should be seen as an opportunity to discover what kind of person God made them be.
Some women are so busy trying to “find love” that they forget how to love themselves. This can snowball effect, and soon you’re up to your eyeballs in dead-end relationships that seem like they are taking you nowhere. I will admit that I’ve been there. I’ve woken up thinking about what my future husband is going to look like and how blessed his life is going to be because of the sacrifices I made for him, but not a single thought about how happy he would be because of who he is and where he is in life. I’ve even let the idea that I’m not good enough for him drive me to break up with him, which doesn’t change anything. It’s a vicious cycle that you don’t want to get into.
- Women will always be overly critical and judgmental about your man crush, but it’s nothing to be embarrassed about.
We may not have met that perfect man yet, but if you’re a true believer, you can look at this as an opportunity to understand more about God and His plan. By thinking of your man crush as a gift from the Lord, we can make more of an effort to understand what He is trying to teach us truly. We will be subject to the same things we would expect an average person to go through in this life. Just because we are single does not mean we don’t want to find love. We can still explore the things that a married person would do and see if they match our desires, but keep in mind that you may have to wait longer than your friends. The desire to get married and start a family is not just something that magically goes away because you’re not in a relationship.
If you’re embarrassed about having a man-crush, remember that every woman on this planet has one.
- Don’t settle for someone who isn’t right for you or who you don’t love. Don’t let social pressure or loneliness get the best of you.
Blindly dating someone because they ask you out or live in your neighborhood is a terrible idea, especially if they are not following Jesus Christ; this is a recipe for disaster. Don’t let someone take advantage of your loneliness or try to “re-use” you because it doesn’t work, and you’ll be miserable. I’ve been there! I mean, come on! Who wants to go out with a woman who’s crazy when they don’t have to? Don’t disrespect yourself by settling for the first man that comes along. This is a road that is too dangerous to take. A relationship should be the most significant decision you will make in your life, so careful deliberation is warranted.
If someone is asking you out and seems interested in you, don’t be afraid to say “No.” Often, people like to start something because they don’t want it to die out. This is something that you should never do. If the aim is to play a game or get a date for the night, then, by all means, let them down gently. Couples should be a team in building a relationship, not just two separate individuals. If you decide to go out with someone at some point, don’t complain if it doesn’t work out; it’s not your fault.
- Don’t let your single life be defined by how many friends you have or how much money you make.
The last thing you want is to be judged only on what other people think about you and how successful or poor you are compared to them. You will always be judged by what you have accomplished, how successful you are in your career, and whether or not your family is well off. The last thing you want to be is the “success story” that everyone loves to talk about because they either have a big house, nice car, or other worldly things that they brag about. You should always be open-minded about God’s plans for you, so don’t buy into any junk people who try and feed you that will make you feel negative about yourself. You should always love yourself and be proud of everything you have accomplished.
Jesus said in Matthew 6:24, “No one can serve two masters; either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.” I believe this is about as simple as it gets for us single women who have found ourselves in a situation where we have an abundance of friends but no partner.